Wednesday, December 11, 2013

The Perfect Girl

     I was cleaning in my bathroom yesterday because frankly, I was really bored, and it was really messy (I'm not the most organized person in the universe to be quite honest). But I was looking at my counter, and I had my makeup in one corner, and my "necessities" in another. My "necessities" are my contacts, contact solution, tooth brush, tooth paste, mouth wash, floss, mouth guard so I don't grind my teeth at night, (okay, so that thing saves me a lot of pain, and I do kinda need it.) special brush cleaner for my mouth guard, face wash, astringent, moisturizer, deodorant, a comb, and body spray. It made me wonder why these things are considered necessities. I thought for a minute and I realized that society tells us that we need to be flawless to be worth something. I mean, I'm not saying that because you use these things it means you think that way, but it still made me think.

     What is the perfect looking girl to the world? Skinny, perfect hair, perfect skin, (HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!) soft skin, long, thin legs, tall but not too tall (isn't the dream like, 5'7" or something?) a large chest, clothes that complement their body perfectly, thin arms, athletic (but if your muscles get too big then that's the worst thing in the world) and perfect, straight teeth. Yes, you can exercise for the perfect body, starve yourself if you need to, use all the hair and skin products you possibly can, wear heals all the time, stuff your bras, and get braces (okay, so there's really nothing wrong with braces) all you want, but there will always be something else. The world is looking for a perfect woman, but there can be no perfect woman. If you are willing to do all of those things, then that means you are letting the world rule over you, and chances are there won't be a whole lot of self esteem going on there if that's the case. And when there's no self esteem, then chances are no one will even notice if you are the only girl in the universe with the "perfect" body. But have you noticed something here? The "perfect" girl is based all on looks. Now don't get my wrong, there's nothing wrong with trying to look pretty. Nothing wrong with that at all. But honestly, if that's the only thing were worried about, then our priorities are in the wrong places.

     What does God say the perfect girl is? Well, in James 3:2 it says, "For we all stumble in many ways. And if anyone does not stumble in what he says, he is a perfect man, able to bridle his whole body." This isn't saying that if you don't gossip then you're perfect. What it's saying is that the tongue is the hardest thing to control. If we can accomplish that, then we have the strength to accomplish anything else pretty much. And then in 1 Timothy 2:10 it talks about how a girl should have good works, and in Proverbs 31 it talks about a godly woman, which I would like to encourage you to read sometime. But what is a perfect woman to God? That would be a girl who doesn't talk bad about others, and who puts others before herself. It doesn't matter if you measure up to the world's standards. In fact, we're supposed to stand apart from the world. That doesn't mean it's wrong to dress fashionably, I mean, you don't want to set yourself as an outcast. Paul even accepted the customs of the Jews and the Greeks to better identify with them. But as long as we follow the Bible, the rest is up to us. Not the world. So this week I want to encourage you to not worry about what the world thinks about, and worry about what God thinks. After all, God's judgement is the only one that really matters.