Friday, August 31, 2012


     Today, I am celebrating my Birthday, so my parents went ahead and gave me one of my presents early. Batman socks! WITH little capes (they make me run faster too :P) And they go all the way up to my knees, so I have to wear shorts so that everyone can see the capes on the back. But the only shorts I have are shorts I got for sleeping in, and they don't really go to my knees. So I just put on some leggings under them. I know it's not really fashionable, at all, but I think the Batman socks (WITH the capes) make up for that. :) Anyway, here they are. :D

I love getting socks for my Birthday. :)

The Pros and Cons of Being Modest

     Today, I am going to talk about the pros and cons of being modest, because sometimes we think that we're sacrificing a lot, but there are a lot of pros too. :)

The pros:
Well, the first upside to being modest, is you're following a commandment. In 1 Timothy 2:9 it says "Likewise, I want women to adorn themselves with proper clothing, modestly and discreetly..." So, first of all, you're following God's commandment, and that's a pretty good reason.
Another reason is, boys won't lust over you. I know that seems like a con, but honestly, if boys lust over you, it gets really old, really fast, and it's a bit creepy too.
Another pro is,You're keeping your body pure for when you get married, :)

It's hard to find clothes sometimes.
You can't always wear what's most fashionable.

There are lots more pros than cons. I know today's post wasn't really teaching anything, but sometimes we get discouraged, and start thinking that it might be easier to be immodest, but honestly, it's much better than being immodest. And I just wanted to remind everyone of that. :) Thank you for reading. :)

Thursday, August 30, 2012

Lacking Discretion

     In Proverbs 11:22 it says that "As a ring of gold in a swine's snout, so is a beautiful woman who lacks discretion" In today's article, I will be describing what this verse means, and how we, as girls, can apply it to our lives. :)

     You may be asking yourself what discretion is. I know I didn't when I first read this verse. As Webster's Dictionary puts it, "the quality of having or showing discernment or good judgement" This means that us girls have to have good judgement in our clothing choice. Now, it's not saying clothing specifically, but we do need to have discretion when we choose our clothing. When shopping for clothes, I will find the cutest shirt, but it'll be just too tight. That's when I have to make a decision. That's when we have to use my better judgement to say "Nope, can't get this shirt. It's just too tight." And you know what, sometimes, it's hard. Because sometimes it's just what I was looking for. But that's when we have to make a judgement.

     I know someone who loves to play sports. But, her uniform requires her to wear shorts that show a lot more thigh than she was comfortable with, but she absolutely had to wear them. So, what she did was put on a longer pair of shorts under them, so she didn't have to show her entire thigh. That girls, is having good judgement.

     God made all of us girls beautiful. But we have to have good discretion. Some girls think that as long as they have the looks they can show off for everyone. But that is not the case. That is being a golden ring in the pig's snout. Like I said, sometimes it's hard. But God didn't ask us anything we can't do. Please keep this in mind next time you get dressed. :)

Wednesday, August 29, 2012

Photo Of The Day

     This is a hand-me-down that I got a while ago that was just too low, but very cure. So, I got a black shirt to go under, and now I can wear it. :)


Modesty in Our Speech

     Modesty, as I mentioned before, is not all about how you dress. It's also in your actions, and it's also in your speech. Yes, that's right. What we say can be immodest. I know I probably sound crazy, but let me explain.

     You can be completely modest, dressed neck to knee, and still call attention to ourselves by the way we talk. As girls, we do a whole lot of talking. :) And our mouths can have a huge effect on how people view us. A lot of girls say that they dress modestly because they want to leave those parts of their bodies to the imaginations of guys. But honestly, I don't want them to imagine me showing those parts of my body. But let's say that I do want them to imagine me wearing noting. I would first just subtly mention something about the part I want them to imagine. Then I'd keep going on about it. I'd make sure that they had a vague view of what it looked like, so they could picture it in their mind. This is not how we should use our tongue. It is not modest to call attention to yourself, or those parts of the body, no matter how you do it.

     This is one of the reasons we shouldn't wear suggestive clothing. Boys think differently than us girls. When I see a shirt that has the word "delicious" across the front, I don't know about you, but I don't really think anything of it (other than it's immodest). But boys think a whole lot differently, and they will think about those parts of the body. Please don't put those thoughts there for them to think. Please keep this in mind next time you get dressed or open your mouth. I hope I explained this to you in an understandable way. Thanks for reading.  :)

Tuesday, August 28, 2012

Photo of the Day

     This is a dress I got a while back, and it still fits, except for the fact that it's just a bit to short. So, what do I do? Just add a pair of jeans or loose leggings under it and voila! There you have it, a dress that you can make modest with a very simple solution! :)

Purity in How We Dress

     Today I will be talking about purity in how we dress. I know I already mentioned it before (if you want to read the article, please go here: but today, I am also going to be talking about how we can be pure in not only our clothing, but also in our actions. You know how I mentioned in a previous article (It's Also an Attitude) that modesty is also in how we act, well, today I am going to tell you how the choices in our clothing can effect our purity.

     Please imagine for a second that it's December 24th. It's Christmas Eve, you're out of school, so you wake up around 10:00 AM because honestly, you can. You look outside you're window, and you see that your yard is covered with a thick, pure white layer of the prettiest snow you've ever seen. Perfectly pristine, not a mark on it. Now imagine that you want to go outside, just to get a closer look at it. So you grab your coat, hat, boots and gloves and go look at the snow. Then, you start thinking how absolutely beautiful it looks. So you decide to build a small snowman. Not too big that you have to take up all the snow, but just enough to be as festive as all your neighbors. So you start rolling the snow. And rolling, and rolling, "Oh, just a little further, it's just a little bit more, it can't hurt anything." You keep saying this to yourself when you think about how big your snowman is getting. And after a while, you start to realize that you went too far, and rolled too much snow. All of a sudden, you look back and you wonder why you didn't just leave it alone in the first place. It looked much prettier then, and now, all the snow you have is already used up, and all that fun you had was just a waste of time. Now you realize that it wasn't really worth it.

     Sometimes, what we allow people to see is that rolling ball of snow. And after a while, we look back and realize that our purity, which was once that wonderful, beautiful thing, is now so churned up that all you can see is the dead grass it was covering. That is one of the reasons we dress modestly, to keep our purity in tact, and to keep lustful eyes from looking at us. Because once they start looking at that pure, white snow, they want some of it for themselves. And after a while, there's none of it left for your future husband to see. We need to keep our bodies pure. "Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you whom you have from God, and that you are not your own?" 1 Cor. 6:19 (NASB) Our bodies are to be kept pure, because they are not ours, they belong to God. Please, protect your purity by dressing modestly. I know we can't control how guy's think, but the thing is, we can control what they think of us by keeping ourselves pure in the way we dress. Please keep this in mind next time you get dressed. :)

Sunday, August 26, 2012

Photo Of The Day: When Clothes Just Don't Fit Right

     This is one of the shirts I got a while ago, I didn't have to stretch it out, and it wasn't too baggy. I got it at J.C. Penny for I think $7. They came in a bunch of different colors in all women's sizes. :)

When Clothes Just Don't Fit Right

     Yesterday, I was asked if I could write on how to find clothes that aren't to tight, but not too loose, because sometimes, you just can't quite find clothes that fit right. So, today, I will give you some tips on how to find clothes that fit right. :) Sometimes, we tend to go look for clothes in the boys department. And I'm not saying that there's anything wrong with it, but sometimes, they just don't fit how we want them to, especially in the shoulders. One of the things I like to do, is shop in the women's department. Usually, I can get shirts that are looser, but not baggy. One of the places I go sometimes is Christopher and Banks. They have a lot of looser fitted shirts that'll actually fit. Now, let's say you can't quite fit into women's sizes, but too big for the smaller sizes. Or, like I was asked, for more heavy set girls who can't find clothes, so I suggest, for if you're clothes are slightly too small, when you take them out of the dryer, stretch it out a little. After a while, if you keep stretching, it'll stretch out permanently and you'll be good to go. But for finding clothes that you don't have to worry about stretching out, you can tailor it yourself, have a friend tailor it, or take it to a professional. And, if you like the layered look, you can find those cut out shirts, and wear something under them, as they're typically looser fitting shirts. I know that sometimes we have to search high and low for cute, modest clothes, but just keep in mind that you're following the will of God by doing so. :) I hope I was able to help. :)

Saturday, August 25, 2012

The Photo Of The Day

     I know I haven't been able to keep up with it lately, but here's the photo of the day. :) This is another example of a shirt that I had to get in an XL just so it isn't skin tight :) (I don't know if you can see it or not, but the shirt says "Bacon makes everything better").

It's Also An Attitude

     Modesty isn't just about the way we dress. It's also the attitude that we have. If we go around calling attention to ourselves, it's not very modest at all, no matter how we dress. Because, one of the reasons we dress modestly is so that we don't bring attention to ourselves. Also, if you say things to call attention to yourself, it's also immodest. Like, if I were to go around, only ever talking about myself, it would only attract attention to myself. Now, I don't mean that we should completely hide from everyone, but I do mean that we should have a modest attitude. One of the things that gets me, is girls who complain about their faults all the time just to get complements. Or, when someone compliments them, instead of smiling and saying "thank-you", they just disagree with them. Girls, that is not a modest attitude.
     But one of the many things that a lot of people don't do, is acknowledge our gifts. Some people think that, in order to be modest, we can never compliment ourselves. Now, we can over do it if we're not careful, but it's okay to accept the fact that you have a gift. God gave us those gifts to please Him with, and we can't use those gifts if we don't accept them. Like I believe that I have a gift in writing. That's one of the reasons I started this blog. So that I can use that ability to share my opinions on modesty. As girls, sometimes we tend to think that if we acknowledge these things, then we are being vain, and that is not the case. We shouldn't brag about them, but I think that we should accept them, and use them. Please keep this in mind, and I hope that you have a wonderful, modest attitude. :)


Friday, August 24, 2012

Marvelously Modest

     So, this past week, I have been spending some time with some wonderful christian friends, and let me tell you, everyone was dressed so modestly, it was absolutely wonderful! :) In fact, I got so used to it, that when I went out to a store, I started realizing just how much immodesty there is in the world. It's very easy to get used to immodesty when you're around it so much. But you know what, there are certain times, like this past week, where everyone around me is dressed modestly, and it is just marvelous! :) You forget how big of a problem it is until you're not around it. So, today, I am going to thank all of you girls for dressing modestly. And I hope I can help you in doing so.

     I was in a Bible class on respect by Sheila Butt this past week, and one of the things that she said was that, when we dress modestly, we are showing self respect. And if we don't show self respect, then how can we expect others to respect us? When we dress modestly, we are showing others that we respect ourselves, and our bodies. Another thing she said was that, a guy sees it as, "If she lets me see it, she'll let me touch it." Girls, we need to be careful what we show men. Maybe you won't think of what you're wearing as immodest, but guys think a lot differently than us. The best thing you could possibly do, is to consult your father about it. Because, your father is going to want what is best for you, but he also knows how boys think. Any time I'm not sure about something, I always ask my dad for his opinion. Because, I not only want to keep myself, and my body pure, but the minds of others pure as well. Please keep this in mind next time you get dressed, :)


Sunday, August 19, 2012

Put It To The Test

So, I won't be able to have any pictures to go with this article as my camera is dead and I have no spare batteries, but I will try to explain this in the best way possible without them. Today I am going to talk about different tests you can do to make sure that you're not only dressed modestly when you're standing perfectly still, but when you're moving around as well. Sometimes, I'll buy this really cute shirt, and I'll wear it out in public, and when I raise my arms up, I'll realize that I am showing a little too much skin. So today, I will be telling you about different tests you can do when you're trying on clothes, so you can be modest no matter what position you're in. :)

A good test for making sure you're modest all the time, is standing up, and raising your arms. Is there any stomach showing? Then, keeping your arms up, bend over and make sure you're not showing cleavage when you do. Some people say that when you're wearing a looser top, you need to always put your palm there so you don't show anything, but honestly, I think that you shouldn't have that risk in the first place because sometimes, we forget to put out hand there, and then everyone can see everything anyway. So then, once you make sure you're not showing cleavage, bend all the way down and touch your toes (or at least try). Are you showing your back? Can people see your underwear? This is also a good test to see if your pants are high enough. A lot of shirts can't be worn because the pants aren't high enough. But if you just find high rise jeans (or whatever kind of pants/skirt you're wearing) then that can be fixed a lot of the time. I know they're not exactly in style, but if you're wearing your shirt over it, who's going to notice?

Another test you can do for skirts, is sit down and cross your legs. Are you showing thigh? Or maybe is it too tight? And, to make sure it's not see-through (which is easily fixed with a slip, and sometimes you have to watch out for this in shirts as well) put it next to the light and make sure it's not see-through. One more thing, is the walking test. When you walk, does it ride up and show thigh? I try to make sure that my skirt covers my knees at the least to make sure this doesn't happen.

Another test you can do is for pants. Oh, I have the hardest time finding pants. If I'm looking for jeans, they're too tight. Or if I'm looking for shorts they're too short (but for shorts I just usually look in the men's department because, basketball shorts are basketball shorts). So here are the tests I do: For jeans, I make sure they're not too tight in the rear or the thighs (after the thighs it doesn't really matter all that much because you don't have to cover it up). You also have to be careful about patterns, sequins, or holes on the rear, and if they do, for holes, you can get denim patches (denim so you're not drawing attention to them), and if there are any patterns or sequins, you can just wear a longer shirt with it. So, once you've figured out if they're too tight or not, pick out a shirt that typically doesn't reveal stomach, put it on, and raise your arms to make sure the pants aren't too low. For shorts, it's the same tests plus two extras. First, squat down. Do they show thigh?  Do they fall down in the back so you can see your underwear? When you sit, do they ride up? And second, bend over to make sure they don't lift up and show thigh. These are all tests you can do to make sure your pants fit right no matter what.

I know this seems like a lot, but being modest definitely takes some patience. I wish we could live in a world where being modest was easier, but sadly, it's not. I was talking to my dad once, and he told me that after Adam and Eve left the Garden of Eden, God made garments for them, and the original word meant covering the shoulders, the stomach, and the legs all the way down to the knees, and not so low cut that Eve was showing cleavage. God gave them the garments that were the essentials for modesty. And I think that, if that's how God wanted Adam and Eve to dress, then that's how he wants us all to dress. Please keep this in mind next time you get dressed. :)

Tuesday, August 14, 2012

Photo of The Day

So, I was going shopping with my mom when I saw this shirt for I think $7.00. So I figure I might as well try it on. Typically, I'm an adult/teen small, so when I saw it, I started looking for the smalls. When I saw the small, I was very surprised at the size of it. This was a teen clothing store, so there were no children't sizes, but what I picked up looked like a children's small shirt. I mean, really really small. So, what do I do? I start looking for bigger sizes. This is an XL shirt. It's actually a bit form fitting even. Do I really look like an XL? I mean, I'm 5'4" and just over 100 lbs. I shouldn't be an XL. Anyway, my point is, sometimes we have to go for the bigger sizes so the shirt isn't too tight. So, next time you see a shirt you like but it's too tight, just try going up a size or two, and if the neck line ends up being a little low, jut wear a thin tank-top underneath so you're modest, but not hot. :)

Saturday, August 11, 2012

Public View

     Today, I'm going to take a short break from the deeper study articles, and write about something that needs to be covered in addition to those. So, when you dress immodestly in public, you are allowing the public to view your body. When you dress that way, people WILL look. Today, I was reading an article about someone who video-taped some cheer-leaders doing their routine, in public. They were moving in very suggestive ways, and their clothes covered almost nothing. When the girls doing this routine found out about about the video, they were very angry. So, let me get this straight, they did something, immodest, in pubic, then, when someone videotaped it and started selling those tapes, they got angry. What?! When you do something in public, you can't do something that you don't want the public to see and then get angry when they do. The reason the person who taped them wasn't arrested, was because it's not illegal to tape things that are done in public. It's not like he found them doing this behind the closed doors of their home. They did this in public, and therefore, it was public property. When you dress immodestly in public, what you're showing is free property to the eyes of everyone. Now, I'm not saying that they have to look, but you don't have to put it there. Please keep this in mind next time you get dressed. :)

Wednesday, August 8, 2012

More on Cutouts and Lace

     So, I have a question, when you are wearing clothes that have cutouts, but they have lace over them, do you really, honestly think that it's being covered? Because honestly, it's not. You're showing just about as much skin as you would if there were no lace at all. When we wear things like that, it is showing skin. Also, when you wear lace, showing skin, even if you're not showing the skin that needs to be covered up, it's still immodest, and let me tell you why. I once heard of a study some people did, to see what men thought was distracting, and what was modest, and one of the things they said was lace. Because, even though it may not be on a place that should be covered, they still feel like they're seeing something they shouldn't, and it's very distracting to them.
     Another thing is, when you are wearing clothes with cutouts, like Sarah said in the original article, what's the point of even getting dressed if you can still see everything? I mean, you might as well not even get dressed at all! It's like my Union Flag shirt. I mean, I saw that and thought, "What is the point of this shirt?" It was short so when I raised my arms you could see my entire stomach, and that honestly didn't matter because you could see it anyway it was so see'through, it was low cut, and had a big cutout in the back. What was the point of that? It's not a covering, that is an accessory. I have hats made of more material. When I see someone wearing something like that, I just have to wonder how on planet Earth that could ever be considered modest. Now, if you have clothes like that, you can always wear something under it and make it modest. There are no excuses for being immodest. If you say that you can't find anything in the stores, then you're not trying hard enough. If I can do it, so can you. :) I hope you keep this in mind next time you get dressed. :)

Tuesday, August 7, 2012

More on Suggestive Writing

     When you go to the store, and find these shorts that have the word "Adorable" on the rear? What do you think guys are gonna be thinking if you wear them? Do you really think that they don't make the connection and think that you have an "adorable" rear? And do you really think that they don't notice, because I can tell you right now, they do. The human brain was designed to recognized language, and boy do they recognize it. And they don't have to be Einstein to figure out the message you're sending them. You are calling attention to wherever writing is. In fact, any writing at all on your rear, and it'll be noticed. And once they see the word, their not looking at it anymore, their looking at you there, and they are NOT going to be thinking about whatever is written on there. The same with your chest. I have found so many cute shirts, but I couldn't get it because the writing was RIGHT on the chest. Once, I heard of a shirt, it said, on the chest, "Take a picture it'll last longer". So, let me get this straight, you are calling attention to that part of the body, and then you are getting ANGRY when people LOOK. That makes me laugh. :) Look, if you are going to call attention to yourself, you can't get mad if someone looks.

     Also, like Monica said in the first article on suggestive writing, your clothes tell a story about you. If you go out in public wearing something like that, do you really think that you're going to make a good impression on those who you WANT to make a good impression on? Because, like I said, the guys who you want in your life, are the kind that shun that stuff. When you wear that, all you're doing is sending a bad signal to those men. Now, I'm not saying that guys HAVE to look. Once they see it, they should avoid it, but girls, in order to avoid it, they have to know that it's there first. Please, don't put it there. Please help keep the minds of men pure. I hope you have this in mind next time you get dressed. :)

Monday, August 6, 2012

More on Bikinis

     So, I have covered a bunch of the basics, so now I'm going to expand on each of the articles I've written, and cover them a little more, starting with the bikinis.

 Okay, so what is the difference between a bra and panties, and a bikini? A bikini is made of a different material, and usually shows more skin. Now tell me something, would you go to the beach, and find someone wearing JUST their bra and panties? Of course not! That would just be wrong! But, if you go to a public beach, I challenge you to find SOMEONE in a modest swum suit. And I don't mean in a tankini or a one piece. I mean a swimming suit that covers your thighs, your shoulders, shows no stomach, and doesn't show cleavage. I believe, that when the Bible says that we should be modest, it doesn't mean that we should be modest, except when we're swimming, that makes it okay. In 1Timothy 2:9, it says, “Like wise, I want women to adorn themselves with proper clothing, modestly and discreetly, not with braided hair and gold, or pearls or costly garments.” (NASV) This does not say that it is okay to dress immodestly during the summer just because it's hot outside, or because that's what's in style. In John 21:7, it says, “That disciple therefore whom Jesus loved said to Peter, 'It is the Lord.' And so Simon Peter heard that it was the Lord, he put his outer garment on (for he was stripped for work) and threw himself into the sea.” (NASV) Now, if John was in his underwear, and it was perfectly fine for man because it was for his work, did that make it okay In Jesus' eyes? Of course not! What is acceptable for man may not be acceptable for Jesus. And, if he was clothed in as little as his underwear and Jesus was not okay with it, does that mean that he would be just fine with a bikini just because you were at the beach? Well, Peter was in that little clothing, and HE was fishing, which is a water activity. But that by no means made it okay.

Also, why would you wear a bikini? I was visiting one of my favorite websites,, (which has some of the best fashion tips for almost anything) when I saw the name of an article, “20 tips on how to look smoking hot in a bikini”. If that is why you want to wear a bikini, let me tell you something; if you want attention, and you're getting it that way, then you are getting the wrong kind of attention. A guy, is going to want to date a hot girl, for a little while. And then, when the newness wears off, and he gets tired of looking at that same old body, he's going to want a new girl. It's like when a child gets a toy. He sees it, he wants it, it's new, it's pretty, and then when he plays with it for a little while, it looses it's newness, and he drops it, and wants a new toy. And the thing is, he knows he's going to get it, because it's cheap, and easy for him to convince his parents to get it for him, because it doesn't cost much. Do you really want to look easy, and cheap? Also, if you bring attention to yourself, you are not only going to attract that cute guy, but you're also going to attract that smelly old man who wears diapers.
Another reason, is because, you are not only showing off a whole lot of skin, which should be a good enough reason by itself, but it's also bringing attention to those parts of your body which no one should ever see until the day you are married (well, this applies to dressing immodestly in the first place too). Because, if the only clothing is over those parts of the body, what do you think guys are going to be paying attention to the most? Where the ONLY article of clothing is, obviously. A lot of girls say, “I can wear what I want, and if they look, that's their fault.” But think of it this way, if someone built a bubblegum pink bridge, and put a sign next to that bridge that said, “WARNING: Anyone looking at this bridge will be shot!” Now tell me something, would that be fair? Of course not! Now, you could say that the person didn't have to look, but if you see that out of the corner out of your eye, you'd look wouldn't you? It would be a bit difficult not to. It is not fair to men to dress that way, and expect them not to look. Now, if a guy sees that, he should look away, but it is mostly on the girl who dressed that way to begin with, because they are the ones being the temptation. If the temptation were never there, then there probably wouldn't be an issue with it.

By Jayla Sparks  

Sunday, August 5, 2012

I Don't Wanna See It!

     Okay, so, I have posted mainly about shirts, and what is modesty in that sense, but today I am going to talk about dress and shorts length. Okay, so, girls, I hate to break it to you, but guys are attracted to thighs, and we need to cover it. I know you really really want to wear a dress that's 6 inches above your knee, but guys are not going to look at your thigh, and think pure thoughts, or they'll at least struggle with it. When you are showing your thighs, you are creating a stumbling block to men. And, like I said before, the only guys you WANT to attract, are the guys who WANT you to dress modestly. A lot of people say to dress modestly because they "want to leave it to the guy's imagination", but honestly, do you really want guys imagining you that way? That is one of the reasons we DRESS modestly, so that they don't!That is one of the reasons you should be careful where writing is on your shirts, so they aren't looking, and imagining it! Please, bear this in mind next time you get dressed.

Thursday, August 2, 2012

Appropriate to Man, but Immodest to God

     So, before, I mentioned something about clothing being appropriate to man, but immodest to God, but didn't really cover it all that much. So today, I am going to focus on that a little more. Now, if you wore a bikini to the beach, society tells us that that would more than acceptable. I believe, that when the Bible says that we should be modest, it doesn't mean that we should be modest, except when we're swimming, that makes it okay. In 1Timothy 2:9, it says, “Like wise, I want women to adorn themselves with proper clothing, modestly and discreetly, not with braided hair and gold, or pearls or costly garments.” (NASV) This does not say that it is okay to dress immodestly during the summer just because it's hot outside, or because that's what's in style. In John 21:7, it says, “That disciple therefore whom Jesus loved said to Peter, 'It is the Lord.' And so Simon Peter heard that it was the Lord, he put his outer garment on (for he was stripped for work) and threw himself into the sea.” (NASV) Now, if John was in his underwear, and it was perfectly fine for man because it was for his work, did that make it okay In Jesus' eyes? Of course not! What is acceptable for man may not be acceptable for Jesus. And, if he was clothed in as little as his underwear and Jesus was not okay with it, does that mean that he would be just fine with a bikini just because you were at the beach? Well, Peter was in that little clothing, and HE was fishing, which is a water activity. But that by no means made it okay.